It has been shown that if feelings of anger, rage, despair, yearning, and the many other emotions that crowd our thinking, and that have been pent up for a long time, can be fully expressed to someone who is trusted, one’s personality may gain a new state of balance and eventually function properly. God should be that “someone.” The importance of being able to confide in a trusted pastor, counselor, friend, or loved one should not be minimized, but real healing of the memories comes as we entrust into God’s hands our entire personality, asking Him to do for us what we are not capable of doing for ourselves. The Apostle Peter explains it like this: Trust yourself to the God who made you, for He will never fail you (1 Peter 4:19b, TLB).
David knew the pain of unhealed memories. To read the Psalms is to discover afresh just how much pain he experienced. David was totally ignored by his father when the prophet Samuel came to anoint one of Jesse’s sons to be the next king. Can you imagine how much that must have hurt the young lad? You can read all about it in 1 Samuel 16.
David says in Psalm 27:10, When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the Lord will take care of me (NKJV). David understood that it is God who strengthens the heart and mind and enables a person to go on in this business of surviving in the land of the living. I would have lost heart, David wrote, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living (Psalms 27:13, NKJV)
So it is that we must come to the heavenly Father for healing of memories, surrendering our defenses and excuses, being open to the work of the Holy Spirit. Sometimes it helps to write out a list of areas in your life that need to be cleansed and healed. Then as you surrender these things to God, relaxing in the Spirit, begin to thank Him for every new insight, however painful, that He reveals to you. Confess to God your feelings and emotions. Let Him do a cleansing work in you. Let Him comfort you. You will find that His love will take the place of the hurt and the hate you have been harboring.